You don’t always have to be in control.
 Give choices.  Jim Fay and Charles Fay PhD in Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood say “battles over control benefit no one.  They create tension and make warriors out of otherwise peaceful people.”  When you give choices, make sure they are acceptable to you and don’t bother anybody else.  For example, let them pick between two sets of pajamas.  They could decide which toy to play with at bath time.  Ask if they want to use a little or big fork during dinner.  Give only two choices and if your kid picks a third one say, “That wasn’t a choice.”  Then decide for them.  Quickly move on.  Giving away some of your control teaches your child how to make wise decisions.

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